Once upon a time there was an oyster and he was doing what I suppose oysters do; nothing. I mean, what is there really for an oyster to do? However, on this day the oyster was in pain. He had this nagging pain in his side. It felt like something poking and the feeling just wouldn’t go away.
There wasn’t much he could do besides just lying there in a shell, so he thought:
“How can I improve the situation?”
He didn’t whine, he didn’t cry, and he didn’t blame others; he just focused on a solution.
It turns out the pain in his side was tiny grains of sand, which turned into a beautiful pearl.
Have you ever had something in your life that made you uncomfortable like the pearl? Have you thought something you were going through was just an awful experience at the moment, but it turned out okay?
What can we learn from the oyster? I believe it’s this.
How good would our lives be if we stopped letting little annoyances bother us?
What could we do and accomplish if we stopped worrying about the little thing?
What if we sought happiness instead of dwelling in self-pity?
If we put our faith in God, trust our abilities, build relationships, put others first, and Forget The How; we can accomplish anything.
It’s not easy to always have this mindset. It’s challenging. I know…
Last week our family was on vacation in beautiful Siesta Key, Florida. The beaches and town were perfect. We stayed in a condo where you could look out the front door into the bay, and walk out the back door onto the beach. It was gorgeous.
When you vacation on the beach, what’s the one thing that can throw a wrench in your plans real quick?
Yeah, you guessed it…the weather.
We got in on Saturday and had a great day. Sunday was a bit overcast and we had some showers, but overall got in some quality beach and pool time.
Monday was a complete wash out. But I was staying positive and not letting it affect me. So my wife and I took the boys to the aquarium and had a blast. On the way home we stopped in town and went shopping and visited a few local establishments. Even though it rained the entire day, we still had fun.
Tuesday was not looking good. My wife was starting to get upset about the forecast, I was getting worried we’d have rain the entire trip but putting on a positive front..So we decided to drive up 15 minutes north to Siesta Key Beach and had a solid four hours of beach time before the rain came.
Wednesday was more of the same. We were going to take the boys to a local safari zoo to hold baby tigers, but they were closed because their parking lot was flooded from all the rain. So, we drove 30 minutes to the local museum and had a great time. Afterwards, we checked the radar and decided to drive up to St. Petersburg beach. Back home at the condo it was raining. At St. Pete beach, we had sunshine!
Thursday was a windy day with no rain, but because of the wind it was hard to be on the beach. So in the afternoon we rented a boat and took it out on the bay. During our boat ride we saw a dolphin swimming. We followed up the bay watching it feed for a good 10-15 minutes. My wife loves dolphins and it was awesome to see her so happy watching this dolphin swim in the wild. It was a great afternoon.
Friday was a picture perfect day on the beach. We had just absolutely perfect weather!
My point of sharing this with you is this: maybe it’s your vacation, maybe it’s your team, or your boss. Maybe you’re having a bad quarter. Perhaps a client cancelled on you. Whatever it is, you have a choice.
We can’t always control the events in our lives, but we can control our response; which determines the result.
There were other families on the same vacation as we were. We saw them posting on the Siesta Key Facebook page how bad the weather was for them and how it ruined their vacation.
It didn’t ruin ours. Our family had a great one because we chose to.
Life either happens to you or for you. It’s your choice and that’s the beauty of it all.
Here are three keys to choosing happiness when it seems like nothing’s going right for you:
- Stay cool and allow life to happen. There’s always an alternative. One door closing is another opening. Something good can and WILL happen if you just open your mind to it, and seek solutions.
- Don’t give up. In the words of Kelly Clarkson (yeah, don’t judge), “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” If you want the rainbow, sometimes you have to put up with a little rain.
- Learn from it. Instead of asking, “Why?”. Ask what’s the lesson to be learned from it. We always learning. We’re either learning what to do, or what not to do. Remember, good will come from it, but only if you choose to have the right outlook.
As always thanks for reading, have a great week, and be an RGP today!
A very heartfelt “Happy Father’s Day!!” to all the awesome dad’s out there loving and leading their families!
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