One warm and sunny Saturday afternoon a son asked his father, “Dad, can we go practice driving?”
The son had recently just got his driver’s permit and was anxious to begin driving.
Never one to disappoint his son, the father replied, “Sure, let me get the keys and my sunglasses.”
As they got to the car, the dad handed the keys to his son and got in the rear driver seat of the car. The son had a confused look on his face. He expected his dad to get into the passenger seat.
“Dad” said the son, “Why are you sitting in the back? Why aren’t you sitting in the front with me?”
The dad got a huge grin on his face, smiled and said, “I’ve been waiting for this since you were a little boy…Now it’s my turn to sit in the back and kick the seat.”
This is on my bucket list. I’m going to do this to both my sons.
We live in a society were too many children grow up in homes without a father or positive male influence. The number of children living in fatherless homes continues to climb. However, more fathers who are present in their children’s lives are taking an active role. And that’s awesome!
It’s great to see more men value their role as a father and spend quality time with their kids. In a 2012 Pew Research Center Survey:
-46% of men said they spend more time with their children than their fathers spent with them
-48% of men said they do not spend enough time with their children
-39% of men said they feel they are doing a very good job of raising their children
Some of the best things in my life are the special moments with my sons that tug on my heart-strings. I love when I pick my boys up after school and my two-and-a half-year old sees me and yells, “Daddy!” and runs to give me a hug. I love when my six year-old will ask me to do things with him like play hockey, basketball, baseball, football, play Pokemon cards, or just hanging out.
These are the best moments in life.
But I realize I won’t have them forever and that I take them for granted too often. So, it got me thinking, what are the things I want to do with my boys before they’re adults and move out on their own?
I want to do the following with my boys:
-Go deep sea fishing
-Take them to Monster Jam next year
-Take them to their first NBA & NHL games (If the Blues win this series, I’m taking my 6 yr old to his first game next rd…so if you’ve got a connection on tickets, I’m your guy!)
-Go hiking in the mountains
-Road trip to Canada & the Southwest U.S.
-Take them to their first concert
-Go on a camping trip
-Visit the Lincoln Museum
-Take both of my boys on a weekend retreat to the JH Ranch
-Take them on a hot air balloon ride
-Read the same book together
-Go out to dinner and pay for a family’s meal
-Take them scuba diving
-Play on the same basketball team (I guess I’ll need to stay in shape)
-Take guitar lessons together
-Teach them how to act and treat a girl and waiter on a dinner date
-Celebrate their wins and failures together
-Just be there for them whenever they need me
We only get one shot at life. This isn’t a dress rehearsal. I’ll be the first to admit I am no perfect parent. I want to be better each day for my boys. Most importantly I want to create memories that will last a lifetime for all of us. More and more items will be added to list as we begin to cross some off each year.
What items are on your son/daughter bucket list?
Do you have one? If not, spend some today this weekend and put one together.
Summer is quickly approaching and I’m looking forward to spending a lot of time with my wild boys. I’d like to put together a summer bucket list.
What are you planning on doing with your kids?
What do you recommend I do with my three and six year-old?
Please come back next week as we take a look on how to approach and overcome the storms in your life.
As always, thanks for reading, have a great week, and be an RGP today!
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