As I reflect back on earlier years I realize back then I did not know much. It’s amazing the wisdom one acquires throughout time. In the moment though, we tend to believe we have all the answers. At least the younger version of myself did. The statement, “I Don’t Know Anything” can be terrifying because we’re admitting ignorance. But there’s nothing wrong with that. In fact, life can be better that way. This week we’ll discuss why it’s good to admit we don’t know anything and to just let life happen.
As I alluded to above the early twenties version of myself thought I had all the answers. Now. I sit back and reflect to realize I didn’t have any. I didn’t know how much my parents sacrificed for me and my sisters until I had children of my own. I didn’t realize sometimes experience really is the best teacher. In your thirties you understand that what you eat really does affect the quality of your life. I also realize it’s best to wait to respond to an emotional situation and that you don’t always have to be right. The insecurities of my twenties have left and given way to the more secure thirties.
Mark Twain brilliantly stated, “When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years.” I never felt this way about my parents, but I think this quotes perfectly sums up the general attitudes and mindsets that we all have during the teenage and early twenties years of our lives.
Today I am much more comfortable admitting I don’t know everything. In fact, I have learned to embrace it. I embrace who I am for and what I stand for. Over the last decade or so I have evolved and learned a tremendous amount. I always refer to a quote from the movie Crash on this period in life, it states: “You think you know who you are but you have no idea.”
The challenge for us all is admit we don’t know all the answers and to embrace it. If we do, we can live more freely. In a way it will liberate us.
Here are seven things I don’t know that I am okay with:
1. The challenges of tomorrow.
2. The book, idea, or speaker that will change the way I think.
3. What my sons will grow up to be.
4. Where I’ll be living and what I’ll be doing in 15 years. (I’ve learned you “never say never” and to embrace Hakuna Matata)
5. What my passion will be. (It was football coming out of college, now it’s 100% basketball).
6. The people who will influence my life. (Everyone has something to offer and new friends are great!)
7. Lastly, I don’t know how my story will end.
It’s hard to admit those things because I want to control them. Over the years I’ve learned to embrace the unknown. The key to success and happiness is to show up everyday focused on working hard, getting better, and adding value to the lives of others. If I can do those three things consistently life will work out and things will fall into place.
I don’t know anything, and that’s okay.
As always, thanks for reading, have a great week, and be a RGP today!