Part of why I write this blog is to have something to document my journey for you the reader, and for my boys. I want my son’s to be able to read this in a couple of years and really understand who their dad is and what he stands for outside my role as their father.
It’s been awhile since I was an 18-year-old know it all. I’ve grown and evolved into a better version of myself, with a lot of help from best friend, my beautiful bride.
Here are 22 (there’s many more I’ve learned and will save for another post) lessons I’ve learned during the past 15 plus years and what I hope for my sons’ future:
- You probably won’t marry your first love, and that’s okay. If you mother and I had, you two wouldn’t be here. Wait for the right girl for you and then go all in.
- You can’t be anything you want in life. It’s not how it works. But, you can be anything you’re willing to work for.
- You will change and that’s okay. Don’t be afraid to evolve. Having an open mind will bring many great opportunities for you.
- It’s all about relationships. You will come of an age when grades, transcripts, and the school you went to mean less. It’s all about who you know and what you can do.
- Don’t worry about what others think. Don’t be afraid to be yourself. Your both unique and talented. You will do great things. You both have greatness within you.
- You attract everything into your life, good or bad. Don’t complain. Don’t whine. Don’t make excuses. Show up to work every day and don’t expect handouts. If you want something, go get it.
- Love God. The most important relationship you will have is the one with God. Pray and talk with God daily.
- There is power in giving. Give back and serve others. Volunteering your time and talents brings many rewards and you will feel great afterwards.
- One day you’ll realize there is more and better food than cereal, chicken nuggets, pizza, waffles, and PB&J. Your kids will probably be even more picky than you were.
- Don’t eat crap. Your health is your wealth. Remember, eating bad food and drinking bad things will make you slow, lazy, and unhealthy.
- You’ll change one day for a girl. Man, I am glad I did. You will look back at when you were 18 and just laugh one day.
- It starts with you. You are the leader in your house. Be the example. You will fail at times and that’s okay. Love your wife and love your kids.
- When you have kids of your own, only then will you fully realize how much we love you.
- You were just as bad, if not worse at times, than your toddlers will be. You had hulked out tantrums, pee’d in beds, poop in your pants, but we all got through it.
- I’m not perfect. No one is. We all fail. Remember, don’t give up. Get back up and try again!
- I’m sorry for the times I’ve let you down. I’m sorry for the times I was too quick to lose my temper or patience. I’ll be better.
- You don’t have to be anything for your mother and I. Just be yourself and we’ll support you.
- Stay true to your heart. Follow your intuition, dreams, and what calls to you.
- Engage in gossip as little as possible. Always try to talk to people face to face. Don’t take text literal and try to interpret emotions through it.
- Meet new people. Travel the world. Develop friendships with people from all walks of life.
- Don’t hold grudges. Forgive and move on. You can remember, but forgive. Life’s too short to have hate in your heart.
- I’ll never stop working so we can have our house on the beach. Always hustle!
One day it’ll just be you two left, hopefully a long, long, long time from now. Always love each other and have each others back. Don’t ever forget you two are the best things that ever happened to your mom and I. We are so proud of you both and love you!!
As always, thanks for reading, have a great week, and be an RGP today!
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