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Little Wonders

By November 29, 2013 4 Comments

Recently I heard one of my favorite artists one the radio, [amazon-product text=”Rob Thomas” type=”text”]B0007XT4RK[/amazon-product]. With the Thanksgiving holiday approaching I began thinking of Rob’s song, [amazon-product text=”Little Wonders” type=”text”]B0018EFV7E[/amazon-product]. I thought of this song because it made me reflect on all the little things in life that are the most important. I have a two and a half-year old son, and life’s “little wonders” spent with him are the best moments. The most important moments in life are often the little ones.

I’d like to start with a line from Rob Thomas’s, Little Wonders: “Our lives are made in these small hours, these little moments…time fades away but these little wonders remain.” Much like the vast majority of you, I have a very hectic schedule with teaching and coaching. This song, and in particular, this line put things in perspective. Life goes by, but the greatest part of life lies within these small hours, these little moments. I am thankful for these moments and would like to share a few of them with you.

  1. I am thankful for all of the mornings (most of them) when I am running late. The other week I was frustrated because we were once again leaving the house late and I had wanted to get to school early to get some things done. While driving I thought of a blog post I had read (can’t remember from who or where) on this parent’s same problem. I am sure most of you who are parents know what I am talking about. Having a two-year old never really puts you on schedule. However, I am thankful for those late mornings where my son just wants to play, cuddle, or watch cartoons. I am thankful for the mornings we get to spend singing in the car or talking about what we see on the road on the way to daycare. I am thankful for our tardy departures from home because in the end those few minutes late don’t matter, what matters are the moments shared in the tardy times.
  2. I am thankful for the sweet things my son says or does. I love that he has to hold both mommy and daddy’s hands while walking in the parking lot. Right now he loves to cuddle on the couch. He even uses this to advantage to avoid bed time, saying: “Daddy, I want to cuddle.” How can I say no to that?! I am thankful that he loves his mommy and is very protective over her. Sometimes people think he is shy but I love it because he is most happy when he is with my wife and I. There’s not much better in life than getting big hugs, kisses, and cuddling with your child. Those little moments last a lifetime.
  3. You never really know how big of a role and how important parenthood is until you actually become a parent. You can read or talk about it all you want, but nothing will ever fully prepare you. I thankful for all the crazy moments, long nights, and new experiences parenthood has brought. Responsibility is one word that comes to mind. Right now my son is in the midst of the imitation stage. He will watch me do something and will immediately try to do the same thing. It’s the cutest thing. Along with his imitation comes the responsibility to do and say the right things. Anyone can father a child but it takes much more to be a dad and raise kids. I am so thankful for those moments where my son tries to “be like daddy” and do “what daddy does.” It’s the little things.
  4. When was the last time you played hide and seek? It’s an almost daily occurrence in our household. My son will take turns hiding with mommy or daddy while the other one tries to find him. The laughter, excitement, and fun he has playing this is incredible. Last week my son got to ride home on the bus after our basketball scrimmage. It was the coolest thing for him! He sang, played hide and seek with a few girls on the team, and had an absolute blast. Our son loves to give us his toys so we can play with him. He will give us some of his dinosaur toys and tell us how we’re going to play, where the toys go, and if they’re nice or mean. We love to sit and watch him play with his toys while he talks to them and acts out scenes with them. These are all small things individually but collectively they add up to create a life that is full of great memories. I am so thankful I get to have these moments and I definitely cherish them.
  5. One of the most rewarding things as a parent is getting to experience all of the moments that bring joy, excitement, and wonder to your child. The moments that take your child’s breath away are some of the most unforgettable. My son loves trains and it is priceless to see the expression on his face when we get to see them in person. He has literally watched Polar Express over fifty times, easy. My wife and I were talking a few weeks back (once he finds it, we watch it for a week straight. I finally hid it in a closet until Christmas) about how great and funny it is that he can watch something over and over, yet it’s like the first time he’s seen it with how he reacts to his favorite parts. Every time we go to the zoo it’s a new adventure. As adults we tend to get bored with things we’ve seen before, but with having a child you get to experience the wonder and awe all over again. I am thankful that my son’s experiences and reactions bring me back to my childhood, and I’m so glad I get to be there for his.

During this holiday season I have a lot to be thankful for. Thank you all for reading and sharing these posts, I sincerely appreciate it!

More than anything else, I am thankful for my family and our health. There are many who are not so fortunate.

Thanks for reading, have a great week, and be an RGP today!

~Kyle

Join the discussion 4 Comments

  • Right on, Kyle! Enjoy every moment everyday because they will fly by. My son just turned 13. Loves hoops and soccer and we spend a lot of time together in the gym and on the field (been fortunate enough to coach him in both this year). But it has FLOWN by. Seems like a few weeks ago that he was 2 & 1/2 and into trains like your son (Thomas the Train in particular). I have loved every moment of his life, but I wish it would slow down. I already tear up thinking about him graduating from high school and moving on in life because I am going to miss it so much not seeing him everyday.
    Thanks, again, for all your posts. Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family!

  • kelmendorf says:

    Thanks Scott, hope you and your family had a great one! You are so right, time goes by fast! I wish it would slow down everyday. It makes you pause and appreciate it! Hope all is well.

  • Coach Lawson says:

    Kyle,
    You are so right about the small (precious) moments small children bring. But as a mother of three semi- grown children; those small moments never cease. My children were raised by me alone for much of their small childhood; that they grew up depending on just us. But in that different childhood they learned what love and sacrifice really meant to a person. They learned that the love and trust they had for and from one another was of the utmost importance and should never be taken for granted. Still today in their mid to late twenties they still hug, kiss, and tell their momma and one another they love each other whenever we depart. So I just want you to know that you have so many more days of those small memories to make. Even when your son is older and with possible children of his own you will see those moments twinkle back in his eyes and therefore that warm feeling will overcome you again. May God watch over you and your family!!
    There are days that I see those moments in the students and athletes I have the honor to instruct. Those days are heightened through the years passing when those students return back to just say “Coach, I never told you how much you really mean to me. The time you spent making sure I was on the right path and redirecting when I wasn’t is what has kept me doing the right thing. I want to thank you for taking an interest in me as a whole person and not just your student athlete.” Those are the small precious moments that we as instructors will hold dear and precious forever.
    I truly enjoy your posts and look forward to each new topic. I have even shared them as homework reading assignments with our high school girls basketball team and have had several positive comments made from the girls. Who would have known basketball players that actually like their reading homework for basketball. Just another small precious moment or chance to reach a growing child find the right direction.
    May God Bless,
    April

  • kelmendorf says:

    Hi April,
    Thank you so much for reading, commenting, and you kind words. I sincerely appreciate it. It sounds like your children and players are very fortunate to have you in your lives. It’s always refreshing and encouraging to see others do things the right way and the way they’re supposed to be done. It’s inspiring as a fellow coach. You are absolutely right on the small moments being the ones we take with us and hold dear to. What level of basketball are you currently coaching? How is your season going so far? I am flattered and honored you share the posts with your team! Best of luck to you this season and I hope to hear from you again.

    Thank you!
    Kyle