It’s easy to hit the snooze the button and stay within the comfort of your bed. It’s hard to get up each day and give your best effort. Somewhere along the way many people find it easier to stop pushing themselves. It becomes too difficult to do what they know is right, so they begin making excuses. It’s not their fault, it’s everyone else’s. How easy or convenient is it to blame everyone else for what’s going on in our lives? Apparently, it’s all too easy.

There are times when life is rough and you can’t seem to catch a break or get ahead. However, most people are looking for pain, negativity, drama, and heartache. Why? Why would anyone seek those things out? They do it because it provides an excuse. It gives them a reason to push the blame on someone or something else. It’s not my fault I’m not where I should be..

People are in your life that are not helping you. You watch and listen to things that upset you. So why are they in your life? Why do you allow them to take up your time? Stop allowing the people and things that bring you down to control your life. How can you expect your life to change if you stay around the same people and situations every day? Quit being lazy and quit looking for excuses.

Excuses sound best to those making them up.

This week I used an old Zen story with my basketball team. I had the girls meet in my room one morning and bring a mirror. Here’s the short version of the story I told them:

Once upon a time there was a monk who carried around a mirror in his bag. Upon seeing this, the head priest thought, “Wow, this monk must be very vain and conceited.” So he asked the monk why he carries the mirror around. The monk responded, “I use in times of trouble. It reminds me who the source of my problems is and where I can find the solutions.”

The moral of the story is personal accountability and responsibility. You determine your reality. Your are the cause of your problems, and you are the source of your solutions. You’re the reason why things are the way they are. Stop complaining about it if you’re not doing anything about it. Get up and do something.

Sadly our generation and the younger ones we are raising look for any excuse to use as to why their not happy or getting ahead. Nothing will change unless you change. There are two ways we change as people: the books we read, and the people we meet. Through books and relationships you can change your life. Change your mind and you change your life.

“Now if you know what you’re worth then go out and get what you’re worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain’t you! You’re better than that!”~ Rocky Balboa (from the film Rocky Balboa)

Now, today’s a new day! My point is not to tear you down or make you feel inferior. It’s to motivate you. It’s to say enough is enough. You CAN do it. God is not done with you. You can do anything you are willing to work and sacrifice for.

You want something? Go for it.

As always, thanks for reading, have a great week, and be an RGP today!


~Coach Elmendorf is available to speak to your team, group, or organization. Message him for details.