Overcoming The Tug Against You

By September 1, 2017 No Comments
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What are the big dreams in your life?

What is it that if you told other people, they’d laugh and say, “You’re Crazy!”

One of the most recognized names in sports today could’ve easily just been another average Joe. He was told his athleticism was below average. He lacked the strength needed to compete. At best, he was told he would have limited success at the next level. Scouts said he wasn’t a great finisher, needed to improve his ball handling, and that teams couldn’t rely on him to run their team.

This is what Steph Curry was told, and he’s been proving his doubters wrong since day one. Steph had to overcome the tug against him to fulfill his dream.

It’s not just you, me, or only the people you know. It’s everyone. We all have to overcome the tug against us to bring to fruition what lies within us.

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I can vividly remember one fall Saturday afternoon in October of 1994. I had just finished my first season of organized tackle football for the Junior Pioneers of St. Charles, MO. I don’t recall the score, but I believe we lost and I threw a costly interception based upon the following memory.

As we were cleaning up the field and putting away the yard markers, one of my teammates came up to me and said, “You know, if you’re going to play quarterback..maybe you should learn how to actually throw the ball to the right team.”


That kind of hurt the little sixth grade version of Kyle. But you know what? I took his advice and got better. Our team went 30-5 in our sophomore through senior seasons in high school.

However, had I let my feelings in that moment dictate what I thought about myself or abilities I would’ve never had the later success I did. We all have had moments similar to my story above in our lives. Some of us shrug it off, while others allow it to become part of the story. Once it becomes part of the story, it becomes justification (a bunch of b.s.) of why we can’t do what we want, be who we want, or live the life we want.

I’m here to tell you to not give in. Don’t allow the moments where people tug against you to create a story that isn’t true. Don’t allow broken people to convert you to their sad, sullen world of darkness. These people are infectious. Oftentimes we give in because we don’t want to come off the wrong way, but in the end we end up sympathizing too much and are of no help to anyone.

Remember, the only person in charge of your happiness is you!

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In order to avoid the tug against you it’s essential to avoid the following types of people:

  1. People who resist change.
  2. People who live in a constant state of fear.
  3. George Costanza’s. If you’re a Seinfeld fan you know what I mean. If not, George is a Murphy’s Law type of guy. The glass is always half empty.
  4. Debbie Downer’s.
  5. People who have no vision.

On the flip side, you SHOULD engage with the following types of people:

  1. People who follow their passions.
  2. The self-aware.
  3. People who express gratitude.
  4. People who express love.
  5. People who speak from the heart.

How do you avoid the tug against? Please share any tips, ideas, and suggestions that could benefit us all.

As always, thanks for reading, have a great week, and be an RGP today!


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