Stop and Think

By April 4, 2014 No Comments

The goal of this blog is to discuss all things pertaining to life, coaching, and parenthood, while always keeping it within five degrees of sports. What causes you to stop and think? This week I’ll share five thoughts that have given me reason to stop and think recently.

To begin, have you ever thought of how many people there are and where our food comes from? As a kid I would always wonder how there were enough cows for all of these restaurants to feed all of these people? It really is amazing how many fast food restaurants are out there. As athletes, our bodies have to be taken care of. How can we perform at our best if we don’t put good things into our body? We can’t be the best if we fill our bodies with garbage. In order to meet the demand from the public, food corporations fill their products with GMO’s (Genetically Modified Organism) to make them last longer. GMO’s are linked to disease. Over 60 countries worldwide require companies to label GMO’s; however, the U.S. is not one of them. Stop and think about what we are putting into our bodies. Maybe we wouldn’t have an obesity epidemic if we did.

Secondly, the best coaches don’t always get the rings. There’s no doubt that a coach who wins a state title is good. However, there are so many great coaches out there who will never get the chance to play for a state title. In public high schools you get the talent that is in the building. High school coaches must constantly adapt to the talent on the current roster in order to be successful. The vast majority of high school coaches don’t get to recruit their players. So if we solely judge a coach based on how many rings they’ve won, we’re missing the boat. Some of the best coaches out there will never win one, but that’s not important to them. If you stop and think about it, that’s what probably makes them great.

My third thought is love; all we need is love. This past weekend my beautiful wife and I were fortunate enough to attend our good friends’ wedding in Kansas City. It was a small, intimate gathering and it was perfect. It was one of the most beautiful weddings we’ve attended. It wasn’t because of the setting, attire, or decorations. It was completely because it was all about two people’s love for one another. This world would be a better place if we cared less about how big a budget we have for our weddings, doing them big, and having the finest of everything for them. Stop and really think: all we need is love. And now you probably have that song in your head. J

My fourth thought is this: our number one problem as a society is we are creating generations of children that are lazy and entitled. We must challenge our youth and hold them accountable. Social promotion does not work. We need to let our kids fail. It’s good for them. Failure is a great teacher and motivator. Now when kids do fail, we need to be there to pick them up, and help them learn and improve. Kids want and need discipline. They have more respect for the adults who provide it. So let’s stop doing things for them, and giving them the easy way out, and start challenging them to reach their potential. Isn’t that what’s truly best for them? Stop and think about it.

My final thought is on parents and athletics. Our value as parents is not determined by how good of an athlete our child is or what club team they play on. It’s solely on how good of a person they are. There are too many parents (dads especially) who live vicariously through their children’s athletic careers. The number one goal as parent of an athletic child is to be supportive of them. Don’t rehash the game with them and tell them what they did wrong immediately after a game. Rather, find a few positives and discuss those. As parents we should teach our kids to be good sports and great people. Instead of emphasizing winning all of the time, teach them to enjoy the game.

Please feel free to share any random thoughts you have on these topics or any others.

As always, thanks for reading, have a great week, and be a RGP today!