Basketball season is in full swing. Who are the real heroes of the season? Coaches? Players? Not even close. It’s the wives of coaches, but this also includes all significant others of the coaches. This past Tuesday my wife was in Chicago for business and I had both of my sons for the night. This is no big deal, I have them all summer long. However during the work week managing infants, toddlers, and children can be a tough job. Especially when your coaching spouse is gone at least 2-3 times per week. This week’s post is a throwback to my most successful post to date. Please share with all those great men and women who sacrifice so much so their spouses can do what they love, coach.
Original Post Date: 3/7/2014 “The Coach’s Wife”
It’s been said that behind every good man is a good woman. Truer words have never been spoken. Behind every coach is an incredible woman. The wives of coaches are the unsung heroes in sports, and this week’s post is dedicated to them.
There are many difficult things about being married to a coach but the most difficult has to be being a single parent on many nights. During the basketball season it is not uncommon for a coach to be away for three or more nights during the week. This can be tiresome, especially if you have a rambunctious toddler and are pregnant with another child; as my wife is. Coaches’ wives work full days and then have to take the kids to the game or take care of them all night. It can be an exhausting role.
Being married to coach means you are in for many lonely nights. The head coach is normally not finished with duties until an hour or so after the game. Then you add in travel time home, and all of it is extended if it’s an away game. This means the wives are left to themselves, and I am sure it can be quite lonesome. There’s only so many train, dinosaur, and minion movies you can watch before you need the company of an adult.
One thing a coach’s wife will tell you is they experience a lot of high highs and low lows. As a coach, I don’t sleep well if we lose and don’t sleep much if we win. Coaches invest a tremendous amount of time in preparing their teams for games. We are ecstatic after a win, and dejected after a loss. It’s unintentional but often times we take out our frustration on our spouses. If we win, we can be too wrapped up in our game that we forget to make time for our wives. If we lose, we can get too down and not fun to be around. Yet, for some reason they stick by us and support us.
My family is extremely fortunate to be at the high school we are at. Over my nine plus years of coaching there, we’ve heard very few complaints from parents and fans. Unfortunately for many coaches’ wives, they have to sit and listen to parents and fans criticize their husband during a game. The wife can’t yell or comment back and just has to sit there and take it. As a coach, you don’t often hear what is said in the stands. I can only imagine how hard it is for the wife to sit there and listen to the criticism. This is just one more example of the many things they do for their spouse.
The coach’s wife is thanked and appreciated by her spouse but many times is overlooked in the public’s eye. Without their love and support the coach couldn’t do what they do. The athletes wouldn’t get the same training, attention, love, and support that they do if the coach’s wife wasn’t supportive. As coaches, our wives allow us to do what we love to do. Our wives sacrifice so much so we can continue to be a part of a game we love. Behind every successful coach, there is a great, self-less, and loving wife.
I am extremely grateful that my wife supports me and allows me to do what I love to do! Thank you Angie, I love you!
Thank you to all the coaches’ wives and husbands out there who support their spouse and help them make a positive difference in the lives of their athletes!
Thanks for reading, have a great week, and be an RGP today!