The Grateful Coach

By November 28, 2014 4 Comments

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Happy Thanksgiving everyone, a day late. I hope it was a great one filled with good food and quality time with loved ones. It’s typical at Thanksgiving to share what we’re thankful for, but too often it’s one of the only times we express our gratitude. The other day I was pondering what the difference between being thankful and grateful was. Is there a difference? After doing some reading, here is the conclusion I came to. Gratefulness is a state of being and thankfulness is an expression of our gratitude. In this week’s we’ll discuss a grateful coach.

More than anything else, I am grateful for my beautiful wife and two amazing sons. Without their support I wouldn’t be able to do what I do. My wife sacrifices a lot during the season so I can do what I need to do as a coach. She’s the rock of the family, and I am eternally grateful of her support which allows me to coach. Here are the other things I am grateful for as a coach.

I am grateful for practice. I look forward to each and every practice. I enjoy them more than the games because that’s where coaching is really done. Practice is where bonds are created and where individuals become a team. It’s the best part of the day!

I am grateful for team bonding. Some of the best times as a coach are the times off the court that you get to spend with your players. I am grateful for the team meals, movies, and events which help life-long relationships develop.

I am grateful for my players; past, present, and future. Without them I would be nothing. They are the reason I coach. They make all the long hours and sacrifices made worth it. I am eternally grateful for all of the life-long relationships I have through coaching high school athletes.

I am grateful for the officials. Without officials we wouldn’t be able to play the game we all love. Too often we only think of the bad or missed calls made, and we forget that the officials are there because they love the game and want to give back. I am grateful for their hard work and dedication to the sport.

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I am grateful for the game itself. The game will always do more for you than you will ever do for it. I am grateful for all the experiences, life-lessons, countless memories, and friendships that sports have provided.

I am grateful for all the failures. There is no success without failures. I am grateful for the failures because they have made me better. Without the failures I would not be the version of myself that I am today.

I am grateful for the jobs I didn’t get. At the time, it was painful to narrowly lose out a few coaching jobs I was in the final round for. It hurt. However, I am so grateful I didn’t get those jobs because I love where I am at and what I am doing.  I am very happy. And for that, I am eternally happy.

I have many, many blessing which the Lord has provided me. I am so grateful for all that I have and realize how fortunate I am to have. Coaching is a sacred profession, one which I cherish very much. I am forever grateful for the opportunity to influence young lives on a daily basis.

I am also grateful to all of you who take the time to read this blog. THANK YOU!!

As always, thanks for reading, have a great week, and be an RGP today!



Join the discussion 4 Comments

  • Anthony Lanzillo says:

    Thanks for this post. Couldn’t agree with you more. In my work as a sports counselor and mental skills trainer, we talk about the power of gratitude and saying thanks.

  • kelmendorf says:

    Thanks for reading and the feedback Anthony, I appreciate it. What type/age of athletes do you work with?

    Have a great weekend!

  • Kyle,

    Your blog was spot on, in the past few weeks whenever someone would ask me the common questions “how are you” I would respond with “grateful” and I truly meant it. The verbal expression had power over the way I would continue to think throughout the day. I noticed you are a believer in the Lord, and that is something He has put on my heart is to continually be grateful for the situations he has placed me in, to have the ability to inspire youth through my God given passion.

    Thank you for sharing.

  • kelmendorf says:


    Thank you so much for sharing your inspiring words. It made my day reading them and it is awesome to see how you live a “grateful” life. Thank you for inspiring our youth, keep up the great work! If I can ever be of assistance, please let me know.

    All my best,