The Only Person You Have to Prove Right

By September 9, 2016 No Comments


Once upon a time in a far away land there was a tiny village, and in that village there was a large colony of tiny frogs. On this particular day, the tiny frogs were holding a climbing competition to see who could reach the top of the highest wall in the village. There was a large crowd on hand for this race, but no one actually thought any of the frogs would make it to the top.

“The wall’s too high!”

“It’s impossible!”

“No one can win!”

Were all chants heard coming from the crowd.

As the horn blew, the tiny frogs raced up the wall as fast as they could climb. Not long into the race many frogs began to fall off the wall, and more and more gave up as they became tired.

The crowd continued to yell and scream that it was a lost cause. Surely, no frog could make it to the top.

But one tiny frog continued to climb higher and higher. He refused to give up. He would not be denied victory on this day.

The crowd still didn’t believe he’d make it to the top, even after all the other frogs had quit. However, the frog turned them all into believers as he finally climbed over the top of the wall.

What was he secret? How did he accomplish the impossible?

He was deaf.

It’s not about proving others wrong, it’s about proving yourself right.

The frog won because he only listened to his inner voice, and that voice believed in his ability. Sometimes what is perceived as a our greatest weakness is actually our greatest strength. When we tune out the outside world and focus on what we want to achieve, anything is possible.



We all have belief in ourselves. Maybe it’s been pushed down and suppressed by the haters; bring it back! It’s time to think, see, and be positive. Here are five keys to believing in yourself and accomplishing your dreams

Go back to your vision.

Are you hauling rocks or building a cathedral? If you don’t know “why” you’re doing something, then stop doing it. Sometimes we just need to be reminded of why we began, and what the ultimate goal is in order to achieve the result. If you don’t see value in the role you have for the mission, it’s time to find a different mission. If you’re just “hauling rocks” it’s mundane and you see no value. However, if you’re “building a cathedral” you see every detail as important and of value.

Where do you want to be? What’s your goal? Keep that in mind throughout the entire process.

Think and act as who you can be, not who you are.

What opinion do you have of yourself? When you self-reflect, what do you see? What do you want to see? There is a time and a place to reflect on the past, but spend more time thinking about the future. You are not the same person as you were 10 years ago. Be thankful for that, I know I am! There is power in visualization. Spend time visualizing yourself living the life you want to live, and creating the results you want. Think about who you want to be and surround yourself with people who will help you get there.

Each day ask yourself, “How can I be better today?”


Realize there is enough for you.

Sometimes when I think about the goals I have I think, “There’s already people doing that.” So I have to remind myself that one day those people will be gone, and there is enough in the universe for me. It’s hard to think this way all time because the media feeds our society the scarcity mentality. But if we work hard and believe in ourselves, we can accomplish anything!

The key is spend less time listening to others who will cast doubt and fear. It’s also necessary to stop making career choices based on feeling safe and secure. Change can be a good thing. If you want something, go for it!


The only person you owe anything to is yourself.

This life is NOT a dress rehearsal. We don’t get to come back and do it all over again. Today is the youngest you will ever be. As Red says in The Shawshank Redemption, “Get busy living, or get busy dying.”

Coach John Wooden wisely advised, “Think only of the best, work for the best, and expect the best in yourself.”

Why spend time and energy dwelling on the past and on what others expect? Don’t try to please them! Most of the time they are just doubting you because they’re too afraid to try themselves. You don’t owe them anything. The only person you owe anything to is yourself. Be true to who you are and what you want.

Be too big.

Be too big for your worries.

Be bigger than your anger.

Be too happy to let troubles bring you down.

Be greater than the inner fears.

Be deaf to the voices of doubters.

Be too big to let anything and anyone in the way of what you want to do!


As always, thanks for reading, have a great week, and be an RGP today!

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