“You’re wasting your time.”
“You can’t play.”
“You’re too small.”
“You’ll never be good enough to play basketball.”
Teams were picked and poor ‘little Ty’ was left standing on the sideline without a team. Even though he was left out and not allowed to play, ‘little Ty’ knew he could.
Enough was enough.
So ‘little Ty’ and a few of his other buddies that were left out decided to make their own game. They took milk crates and stacked them on top of fences and made their own game. Here ‘little Ty’ honed his skills and would soon take on the “big guys.”
Soon Ty was playing for the #1 ranked High School team in the country. Then he received a full scholarship to play for Wake Forest. After that he was drafted into the NBA by the Washington Bullets.
Ty had enough of people telling he couldn’t play. He had enough of people calling him too small. So, ‘little Ty’ went to work.
And as a result, Tyrone “Muggsy” Bogues went on to star in the NBA, co-star in arguably one of the greatest sports movies ever, Space Jam, and hold the record of the shortest player in NBA history.
The world is full of greats who tired of the status quo and said, “Enough is enough.” When I look at society today, I see too much blame and not enough ownership. There is a lack of responsibility in society.
And no, it’s not coming from our kids…
It’s our fault. The adults. You know, the ones who should know better.
We need to stop enabling each other and our kids. We need to be willing to call people out when they’re not doing what is right. We live in a world where people get to “hurt” too easily, if someone calls them out. Now, we must pair “grace” with honesty, but we’re putting harmony over honesty, and that’s not a good thing to do.
Good enough is not good enough
One of my pet peeves as a coach is when I hear coaches say, “Well, we just didn’t have any leaders this year. We had no senior leadership.”
Well, what did you do to help them lead? Were they trained at all on what leadership is, and how they can become an effective leader? If not, we can’t blame the kids. What we have to realize is, it’s on us. We have to accept responsibility for ourselves, our actions, and those who were are charged to lead.
I vividly remember our second round district football game my senior year of high school. We were undefeated but trailed 13-0 at halftime. If we lost, we wouldn’t advance to the playoffs. I was a captain. It was on me and my fellow seniors. Not the coaches. So we gathered the team together and said, “There is no tomorrow. There is NO tomorrow! Think of all our hard work and what we want to accomplish. It’s on us.”
We came out like lions in the second half, scored 24 points and won 24-13.
I can think back to times in my career as a coach, teacher, or leader where I wasn’t happy with something. The more I think about it, the more I realize I was in control. My actions determined my reality. The same is true in marriage, in order for our relationship to work and be the best it can be, I have to accept responsibility for everything, not look for my wife’s faults (luckily she doesn’t have any…), and set the example as the leader of my home.
Just the other day I showed up early for our first summer open gym. When I walked in, the floor was covered with the tarps from the previous week’s graduation. They were just starting to pull them up. I had to sweep the floor and was frustrated. As we began, I asked the team who’s fault it was. They gave some answers, and then I told them, “It’s my fault. I should’ve called or sent an email asking if the gym would be ready and if I needed to do anything to get it ready. I shouldn’t have assumed. Lesson learned.”
“I was looking for a song to sing
Searched for a leader
But the leader was me
We were looking for the world to change
We can be heroes.” ~John Legend
Enough is enough. Let’s stop shifting blame and pointing fingers. It’s not our kids fault. They want to do well. They want to work hard. They want to succeed. They need to be led and taught how to lead.
Enough is enough.
Give this some thought: “All grown-ups were once children, but only a few of them remember it.”~Antoine de Saint-Exupery
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Biblical quote: “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” ~Proverbs 22:6
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